Before that night, I had never set foot in the little park by the Setagawa, the minor river that cuts through central Ise before winding its way to my apartment, finally emptying into the bay.
And before that night, that park had most likely never been so full, at least not so full of 20- and 30-somethings. About 20 people were already gathered when Sean and I arrived, winded from our 15-minute version of a 25-minute bike ride from Obata.
Winded and stuffed. Out in Obata, we had gathered for a small party at Charlotte’s; a barbecue featuring Real Sausages ordered online and delivered just that morning. But there was one hitch: Charlotte, lost in the excitement of planning a special barbecue featuring special meat, had managed to buy a shiny new grill and a useful fire-starter, but no charcoal.
After waking Sean from his mid-day slumber an hour before the start of Charlotte’s party, we learned of the charcoal problem via text message. Sean, the master of grilling among our friends, was upset. He commanded Charlotte to dispatch one of her car-driving friends on a mission to acquire charcoal. Meanwhile, Sean would clean himself up and we would prepare for the 25-minute bike ride through the side streets and across the Miyagawa, a major river that cuts through outer Ise before it too dumps into the bay.
But the thing about Japanese supermarkets — at least, one of things — is that they usually do not sell charcoal. It remains unclear to this day as to why Charlotte’s friend drove to a series of supermarkets before giving up. We thought we had made ourselves clear: a home center or bust.
Once across the bridge, finally ditching a bus tailing a bit too close behind, we weaved our way to the Gyutora supermarket for a couple beers and a just-in-case inquiry into the existence of charcoal.
Beer: Success. Charcoal: failure.
So Sean, the most-connected among our Ise friends, got on the phone with Estuko, who is from Obata, and whose parents live around the corner from the market.
She confirmed the worst: There was nowhere to go in Obata for charcoal, especially not at the late hour of 7 p.m.
Then, what happened next can only be described as … an Obata Miracle.
Etsuko phoned home, to the house just around the corner, where sure enough they had extra charcoal on hand.
We were ecstatic, embarrassed, and hungry as we parked in the lot out front. Through the glass door of the law offices attached to the house, we could see the box of charcoal already placed, waiting alone for our retrieval.
Sean, meanwhile, explained to me that Estuko’s parents were pretty much his Japanese family. When her father emerged from out back, carrying a flashlight, he inquired about our plans and expressed concern about my lack of a jacket. A barbecue, just over there, where Elizabeth used to live. And oh sure I’m not too cold. And then we bowed a few times. And we said thank you. And then we tossed the box of coals into my bike basket and wheeled away.
An hour after we arrived, with the last of meat cooked, we swallowed our final bite of sausage. Before we could say much more than thanks, we were off, shooting through the quiet streets, slowing down just enough at the dark intersections to know that it was probably safe to pass. We struggled up the incline, onto the bridge from Obata into Ise proper, but with more urgency and speed than we had shown on the inbound trip. We had only a few more minutes to get to the secret rendezvous in the park by the Setagawa.
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Kentaro and Yonchan met in Canada, where they both were studying abroad near Vancouver. They were both there studying English, and that is the language which they used to communicate.
After Kentaro returned to Japan, they were still an item. Yonchan later came to Japan from her home in Korea, helping out at Kentaro’s new bar — named for an island off Vancouver — and preparing to teach Korean to private students.
Around 30 years old, everyone wondered why the steady and seemingly unbreakable couple was not married. Then, one day, their Facebook status changed. Nobody was sure if it was real. After all, Facebook is notorious for “fake” relationships. But a fake status update did not ring possible for these two. It must be true, we reasoned.
At the cherry blossom barbecue a few days later, we confirmed it, able to offer only a congratulations. There was no ceremony. No dress for Yonchan. No gifts or envelopes of cash (as is customary at weddings here). Instead, in the low key way you might expect from Kentaro and Yonchan, they were married.
Reaction was mixed, ranging from simple congratulations to selfish complaints of not being invited to a ceremony that did not exist. Essentially, they were already one of those couples which had reached a point of stability on par with marriage, certificate or not. Friends prod and query, but the consensus is, on paper or not, they’re a permanent couple.
But friends wanted to do something bigger. Which is why at 10 minutes to 10 we gathered in the tiny park, friends and acquaintances, regular customers past and present, married and single; among them old flames, forgotten names, and a few never met before.
Sean and Chiyo, the color therapist, waited for someone to call “go!” before they let loose and sailed down the zip line. Meanwhile, someone with a video camera solicited congratulatory messages. Another person handed out candles and collected 1,000 yen to go toward the main present. We posed for a group picture and then began the short march to Nanaimo.
The surprise, it appeared, worked. Two bartenders in the procession took over the drink-pouring, and Kentaro and Yonchan were whisked away to a back room to change. Yonchan was given a wedding dress complete with a veil, and Kentaro, whose level of formality rarely treads beyond T-shirt, was outfitted with a suit, his skinny tie and un-tucked dress shirt ensuring that he was still the same guy underneath.
Cameras clicked and flashed and recorded every frame of their walk — not down an aisle but instead through the front doors of their bar. They were ushered to the corner, near the cake, and they sat down. A few speeches were made, among a small slate of ceremonial features. Then, the party was open and lasted well into the night.
It was difficult to get any real face time with the guests of honor, especially with a party full of friends, many of whom live out of town or don’t come to the bar so much.
But at one point, when Kentaro circled around to the corner of the bar where I was perched, he looked across the room at Yonchan, and with a smile, he offered two simple but meaningful words: “My wife.”